Arizona Bound

Well I have been away from my husband for nearly a month now and it is finally time to go home. I've gathered all the necessary paperwork, packed all my mother’ belongings, and now its only one thing left to do - tell her we are going.

Well the thing is how to tell her we are going to live with me; this is a woman who never wants to re-locate from where she has lived for over 50 years. She often tells me that she wants to live in her house till she dies and she would never move. Who could blame her she is leaving the only place that she has called home with her husband for so many years and now she is being told she has to go.
This is a very painful and a bitter pill for her to swallow in which I understand and sympathize with her. Her safety comes first with me making my decision a very easy one.

A Nursing home is OUT OF THE QUESTION I will not put my mother in one of those places, and she did not want a nurse because she did not want a stranger to live with her. This left her with only one option and that was to live with me. I do have a brother who lives in Atlanta but we both agreed that coming with me would be the best choice.
So now back to my issue, what to tell mommy? If I tell the truth, oh man; that will not be good she would want to argue and I already went through and learned my lesson. I knew I would have to come up with something that she could live with. I got it!! Mommy we are going on vacation! Let’s just get away for a while and think about what the doctor said later and just have fun for a while. This is what I told her and she accepted it and she was just as happy as she could be about getting away by visiting me. The plane ride was wonderful, the drive on the way to the house was great and relaxing, but it was all about to change.

The real trouble started the next day.

And So It Starts

Well we are going to the doctor’s office today to have test done to determine that it is dementia and not something else. We wound up getting 3 different opinions all of which ended with the same results.

The hardest thing for me was to observe what my poor mother had to endure trying to remember the simplest things that she should already know. The doctor had asked her a question and I tried to jog her memory to help her but the doctor said she had to do it on her own. She gave me the saddest look and I told her sorry I can’t help but you can do it; this way she would not feel so bad. Me, I was dying inside, it was so heart wrenching to watch her struggle and look so helpless. The end results were even more devastating the prognosis was dementia.

The doctors told me to have my mother to get affairs in order and make future living arrangements for her safety. For me it was no problem she was going to live with me. Now her feeling on the matter was a completely different story. I took all of the information I gathered, got the POA (power of attorney), had mommy sign all necessary documents while I structured a plan.

Tomorrow is going to be a very difficult and a very emotional one; I have to tell her that she is going to leave her home of over 50 years and move in with me.

I'm Home

So I arrive home to find things were not in tack like my last visit. I had a lot of work to do. Bills needed to be paid and my mother did not realize that her health insurance payment was over due. This situation was so bad. I needed to figure out what steps I needed to take first.

I did my own assessment of mommy and I could see that she was slowly becoming a shell of my mother and fading away. This disease is so cruel and it slowly strips one of themselves leaving only a shell of what the person used to be.

First, the nurse had said mommy should never drive again I had to be the one to tell her again and enforce that decision.

Second, I had to take mommy to a doctor to get a proper diagnosis and get her on medication a sap.

Third, get an attorney so I may become the POA for decision making and proper medical care decisions.

Lastly, no longer drive – oh boy, and there will be more bad news for her on the way, and I had to be the one to tell her.

My Sad Journey Home

My aunt came for a visit and agreed to remain there till I arrived because she should not at this point be left alone. She could no longer tolerate the nurse being there as well in which sent up several red flags; something just was not right.

So sadly I got it, I was on my way home.

My Mommy

A Daughters Journey

Wow where do I start? Well I would say in the year of 2003. This is when everything changed for my mother and she began to decline in many ways.

During my father’s illness with emphysema he was consuming several medications all of which my mother knew well. What their interactions were, the doses, time for each dose to be taken, mommy knew it all.

February 13, 2003 my father passed away and it was the worse day of our lives. I flew home from Arizona to Chicago to plan and attend my father’s funeral. During this time while home other than being stricken with grief, I did not notice anything unusual about her. Not only did she have to contend with the loss of her husband but she hip replacement surgery to recover from as well.

Later on during the year is when the calls started coming about mommy’s behavior. Repeating things over again, misplacing belongings, and forgetting things, was reported to me that my mother was doing on a daily basis. At the time my daughter was living with her and noticed these behaviors as well as other family members. I told myself that her actions were due to her age and grief and it was not as serious as that and not to worry.

My cousin spoke to me about her and mentioned I should consider a nurse to come in to help her while my daughter was not home. Well my mother did not like that idea at all having the nurse around but she soon began to accept the help. The nurse now began to call with progress reports of my mother in which confirmed what my family was telling me. She tests her driving skills as well and she got lost just from going around her home. I needed to plan a trip; it was time for me to go home.

Children

I have found that children are the best thing ever till they become teenagers then they are from another planet. Then sometime down the road comes the grandchildren every parent’s dream of at least for me.

There are no words for grandchildren they can do no wrong and are beyond precious. I can hear my daughters saying "hey mommy if we did that when we were kids we would have gotten into trouble" implying that I let the grand babies get away with murder. Well I do.

I was a single mother rearing two girls and for the life of me I look back and I wonder how I did it. Later in life I was blessed to re-marry and inherit 3 additional children.

As I watched them grow I've heard them say enough things that would give a comedian enough material for 20 years. In thinking back, when I was there ages I remember asking my father: Daddy when the Cubs grow up are they going to be Bears? I am speaking of the Chicago Cubs baseball and Chicago Bears football teams. My friend used to believe that when it thundered that God was re-arranging the furniture. Out of the mouths of babes, just hilarious.

Now that they have grown older they have developed quirks that I just find unbelievable and I do not know where they got it from. One baby does not like anyones feet to touch her or having them even touched by others, can you believe that? Another baby eats her food one item at a time because she likes no mixture of her food of any kind.

By the way let me explain I call all of children babies, they have gotten used to it so now it is baby one - four (we lost one son) at the age of only 21.

So you tell me what kind of quirks do your children have?

Meet The Family

My wonderful step-daughter mother and the best father-in-law a daughter could have ever asked for. He passed away this year. My heart broke for a second time. This is my daughter's graduation from high school last year. She is now a sophomore in college.


This pretty one is the oldest daughter who is also a college graduate with a degree in Science and is continuing her college education as well to become a nurse.

This is the baby, of my beautiful daughters. Smart, college graduate and attending graduate school with a major in Psychology and will be going into the FBI.





This is my very handsome step-son who just graduated high school standing along with my mother. My son is going to be a police officer and his college major is criminal justice.



The above picture shows four generations. My wonderful mother, two daughters, two adorable grandchildren, and my husband.



Now isn't that the cutest face you have ever seen.

This is Janiya my granddaughter, who is 6 years old, very smart & one of Nana's pride and joy.

Could this be a suicide?

Ok you tell me, my children tell me this song is about his suicide do you agree? I did not think so. So who is right the children or myself?

Mysterious Ways?

You know God works in mysterious ways and I had an experience that I just had to share which proves my point about Gods work.

One day after coming back from the store with my daughter (when she was much younger) we came upon a man waiting by the bus stop. At first glance I knew we must help him in anyway we could; and what do we tell our children when they are growing up never talk to strangers’ right? Well not in this case it was something you just could not ignore even if you tried. With that being said I told my daughter to get in the back seat and pray for us to have a safe journey with the man we did not know.

The man looked as though he had fallen and was trying to get up because he was on one knee, elderly, slender and frail looking. He had a patch over his left eye and it seemed to be draining and flowed from under the patch. He explained that he not long ago had eye surgery and that every once in a while it would have some seepage. So I asked if he was okay and if he needed a ride home he replied, ‘Yes I could use a ride and thank you for your kindness.” I helped the man into the car and got in myself and asked him where he was going. It turned out that he lived right behind my parent’s house and I was going home anyway so it was not out of the way. Now get this, he was at the bus stop that went in the opposite direction of where he needed to go; this poor man was in a bad way.

I turned down his street which was a two way street, but he lived on the other side so I needed to make a u-turn to place him right in front of his house. Instead the gentleman said oh no please you are fine and you have done enough for me this is ok I will walk across the street. Seeing how this just did not settle with me I told him oh no worry I do not mind turning around so you do not have to walk and it is no trouble for me at all. The man I did not know insisted so I let him out and before departed he gave me a fifty dollar bill for just going a few blocks. I told him oh no need for that it was my pleasure to help you and you do not need to pay me anything. Again insisting he left the bill on the car seat and closed the door and said thank you and left. I was in tears.

Once I got to the corner I did not feel right leaving him the way I did so I turned around and speed back to see that he made it to the house but he was gone. Mind you it took me less than a minute to turn around and he was gone. Explain that! Remember I said he was elderly and frail a man with only one Seeing Eye where could he have gone that quickly. We even went through the alley way to see if he was in the back and there was no one. Unbelievable!

Well this story is not over yet, the very next day I got a flat tire and I needed a new one and I would not have had any money to buy one if I had not meet the man I did not know. Now that you have got goose bumps maybe you can return the favor and share what God has done for you. This was a true story.

Thanks for reading and God loves you.

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